So this is my first serious blog post. Like I said in my previous post, I did forget about this blog. It’s just that my memory is something close to rubbish. Haha. I’m like an old woman when it comes to memory, sometimes I’m even worse. Don’t get me wrong, though, I’m not old. I am young, youthful. Well then… I’ll start
“Disgusting” “That’s not normal” “God didn’t even make man and man nor woman and woman, right? He made man & woman”
These words, phrases and sentences are a sample of what I hear every single day of my life. I was raised by two very religious Catholics, thus, they have tried to keep me away from things concerning homosexuality and the likes of it. I have no idea on why my mom seems to hate such topics, my dad, however, is much more open to this topic compared to my mom. This open-minded state of his, however, isn’t really that open-minded as you think. He’ll just sit there, shutting his mouth from saying anything, listening to whatever the latter has to say. In contrast to that, my mom would blabber about how it isn’t natural and how it is weird.
I, a closeted not-so-straight individual, have once succumbed to the things, the advices, my parents would give to me. I have once give in and started hating on the LGBTQ community. Being a growing child, I believed that it was all wrong, all the work of wrongness. I didn’t even accept any form of skinship, not hugs, not kisses, not holding of hands, not even being physically close. None of the casual skinships friends usually do was tolerable for me. I was a child filled with hate for the certain thing.
Then, there came a time when I felt suffocated with all the love I was receiving that I started yearning for contact with others excluding my mom and dad.I started to loosen up and I began to accept small skinships, i.e, sitting with a friend with a small distance between us. I, however, still wasn’t open to the topic of homosexuality. What was worse, one of my close friends was actually in the same boat as I was, we both disliked such things.
During summer vacation before 7th grade, the big turn of events suddenly happened. I was too absorbed with watching anime that, being the curious child I was, I started searching all the different kinds of genres including Yuri(if you don’t know what this is, I advise you to google it). When I found the genre, I was still bitter when it came to the topic but being a reader, I actually decided to read the ones with good story lines. It wasn’t until I finished more than 10 Yuri manga, which I finished in less than an hour, that I started to yearn for more. That was the time when I was slowly getting fascinated by the love the characters shared, without me realizing it. After reading almost all of the Yuri/Shoujo-Ai manga at Mangahere, I started to become more open and accepting. I grew to be more mature and had gained more knowledge. I realized how rude and hateful I was during my I-hate-homosexuality phase. It was, indeed, just a phase.
I began to accept the LGBTQ community and I have learned to love them secretively, hoping my mom and dad wouldn’t discover the things I have been doing. I was contented and it was the time when I felt the world was full of love until…
…I came across a website which contained hateful remarks. I read everything and as I read, my eyes were tearing up. I wasn’t part of the LGBTQ community but I felt bad and slightly agitated because of the comment. I mean, why must you hate so much? Weren’t you taught to love your neighbors?
Months passed and I’ve reached 8th grade. This time, I knew there was something inside me that was waiting to be unleashed, waiting to be accepted by no other one but me. I welcomed this ‘thing’ inside me with warm greetings and, with the help of my friends, I was able to let it out. It was our third or fourth month of school, we were still getting to know each other better but we already felt comfortable, like the four of us were connected on purpose. For some reason I forgot, we started to coin a term to refer to those people whom you like but not that big, something less than a crush. We started telling each other who we liked(not in a serious way). When one of my lady friends said she was growing to like this certain girl, a part of me was clapping like a dork. I felt glad, relieved, that at least one of my friends swings that way. Soon, when all my friends were done, I realized that everyone had someone that they had interest on from the same gender. It was finally my turn and I gathered up all my courage to tell them that I was starting to get interested in this one classmate of ours, a girl. All of them gasped and they were all so surprised. I confronted them and they told me they weren’t expecting me to like a classmate, although they had their suspicions that I had eyes for girls.I asked them why they thought like that and the answer I received was,
“You just seem like it, like, you scream bi.”
After this event, I started becoming more open about me liking a couple of people from the same gender. I finally felt freedom of expression. I was contented for the first time. However, this wasn’t the problem I had, to be honest. The problem with me is that I despise love.
Signed: WrittenWithBlue ~